Finding a Balance

Image of woman on phoneI was recently at an amusement park with my family. Several times during the day I witnessed people engrossed on their cell phones. They were completely oblivious to their surroundings, including their children.

Are you caught up in social media? Sure, we all are a bit, right? But are you overly caught up in social media? Now, I’m not saying that you can’t be on your phone/devices at all around your children. I’m simply saying, don’t miss out on everyday living(the stuff that matters).

Few things require as much hands on attention as young children do. Parents today are definitely pressed for time and are regularly connected online. Checking devices has become both a habit and necessity with the balance of work and family.

Nearly half of all two parent families with children under the age of eighteen have both parents working full time. This looked a little different thirty years ago, with less than a third of the families that fit this description both working.

This multi tasking may hinder your child’s ability to learn from you. Keep the distractions to a minimum. Place your device out of sight if necessary, close apps, or turn it off.  After all, your children are only this little once right?

Here are a few suggestions to help you limit your device time around your children:

  1. Create daily device free times: dinner, bath, bedtime(This will look different to everyone. Pick a few that work for you). You’ll be happy that you did!
  2. Don’t be afraid to let that phone call go to voice mail.
  3. Focus on family during outings/family gatherings. Use this time to create memories!

In closing, electronic device use and children require a delicate balance. Use your children as a motivator to find the right balance for your family. Remember, they are watching us and they learn their screen habits from us.

What are your thoughts on this? Is it a challenge for you? Please leave a comment below and share your thoughts.

Dana Gibbens

Dana Gibbens has been a preschool teacher for many years. She enjoys working with children and their parents. Dana has 4 children and 2 grandchildren of her own.


  1. I couldn’t agree more! I am thankful that I raised my children in a time when there were no cell phones and other electronic distractions. I see my children raising their children while constantly looking at their phones. I have to remind them to put it down and give the child some undivided attention.

    I think it is a great idea to have times when phones are not allowed. Dinner time, bath time, and bedtime should be all about family and not social media. Thanks for reminding us!

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